Learning to Utilize Boundaries

 Boundaries are Prevention Methods

    Childhood can transform us into people we wouldn't recognize as children, however adulthood molds you into the person you were destined to be. not who you assumed yourself to be. As we grow, age and progress through life, it is critical to gain a sense of self which benefits you overall as a person. Some people attend therapy consistently, which can be seen as an outlet or healthy coping mechanism - however, most people don't choose therapy because they have grown accustomed to their ignorance, laziness and comfortability. 

    It is helpful to establish healthy boundaries as we get older, because we have to learn how to effectively use our voices in a positive manner. We have been conditioned to believe that life, love and happiness come after pain, struggle and heartbreak, but we have to unlearn these conditions that have been forced into us as beliefs. Boundaries are ways that people can know and understand your limits which allows others to adjust their behaviors or words as they associate with you. Boundary setting helps us build higher levels of self-esteem, confidence and discipline which helps us throughout various phases of our lives. 

Boundaries can prevent most things from occurring, however we can't predict or prevent everything from happening but most things are in our control, even when we lie to ourselves. 

    Boundary setting is a true form of self-care, because when you set these boundaries, you are choosing to put yourself first - which is vital. Without boundaries, most people feel used, devalued, unappreciated, forced, unheard, etc. these feelings are common when dealing with friends, old flames or current partners. Good boundaries also affect how others perceive you, which can be useful when gaining or improving relationships or business ventures. 

    Most people don't set boundaries because they seek approval or appreciation from others, so in return they have to constantly search externally for something they need to find inside of themselves. Boundaries create trust which enhances the progression or overall development of your personality, thought patterns, behavioral responses and external relationships. Although, boundaries are a form of healthy communication, boundary setting also is a major form of spiritual protection - which can come in various ways. 

Boundaries for most people are safety nets, utilize them as such.